over-scheduled

My step-sister informed me yesterday that I am over-scheduled.  What? Who me?  Well, of course I am, I have four kids.  The problem I now have - how do I change it? 

Do you attend every birthday party?  Every girl scout function?  Every craft/purse/food party that you are invited to?  For the most part, we do.  Most of the things on our schedule are fun things that I know the kids will enjoy, so we go.  But when do you say when?

I am thinking it is time when I am frustrated that I have to go buy another toy for another kid's birthday party.  Isn't gift giving supposed to be joyful?  Uh-oh...

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Wednesday night we finally were able to go see Jeff.  They've been asking for only family, but after a little bit of a scare on Tuesday (which turned out to be mis-understandings, really) I told Harrythat he must go see him.  All it took was a phone call from the family, and we were given the okay to go into the ICU and visit him.  Harry really did not want to see him like that, and I understand, but I also did not want it to be too late and for him to have any regret.

So, we get the sitter lined up and head down to the hospital.  Let me just say this - my husband HATES hospitals and sick people and medical intervention, etc. He is the type of person that avoids funerals at all cost - no matter who it is.  This was not something that was easy for him to do.  He lasted in the room all of about 2 seconds, after just glancing around the curtain at the room's entry.  I let the nurse know tat he would like a chance to talk with them if she had a chance because all of the info we were getting was passed through other people.  I never looked around the curtain, just followed my husband out into the hallway.  The nurse came out to talk with us, and it was nice to see how well she is caring for him.  She told us what they had been doing, and what the "plans" for the near future will be.  But mostly she just reminded us that giving it time/waiting was the main thing to do now.

As of yesterday he had been in the induced coma for two weeks.  MOST times, a neurologist will not let that go on much longer.  They have had cases where they have waited a month, but that was rare - two weeks was a good time to start to try to "wake him up" and that process will take 3- 7 days.  His CT's are good (improved actually), but his swelling is still not under control.  In the next few days they'd like to see continued improvement.  If they do, they will start to wean him out of the coma.  That is when we will be able to find out what kind of brain function he still has.  I am anxious for the days ahead.  I want them to come quickly to know what is next.  But I am also afraid of what is next.  The family has already decided (or so they think thus far) that they will take care of him at home - no matter what.  The nurse told Harry & I that if he is without much function, that will not even be possible.  Eventually, they may have ddecisions to make about how they "define life" - I pray that they do not have to do this.  I will keep you all updated as soon as I hear anything. 

Comments

[Heather]

I'm sorry that he is not doing very well. That's so hard to go through. I don't blame your husband. I don't think anyone really likes to go to the hospital or to funerals. I make myself go, for the other people.

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As for your other question, we do go to most birthday parties (unless I forget! Doh!) but at this point I only have 2 kids that are of the party age. We'll see what happens when we have 3 getting invited to stuff.

[Mere]

I hope Jeff recovers well and soon. I'll keep him in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs.

And yes, we go to everything. But we, too, have only 2 kids in the partying age. Definitely easier (or less busy) than four.